Compare Yourself to a Hopeless Romantic

Screen Shot 2018-03-09 at 5.38.04 PM.pngDo you believe this?

This is the prompt I got handed today.


But I AM a bloody hopeless romantic, so I can’t compare myself to myself!

Look—some people know they are certain ways. For example, someone who’s a realist looks at the world through that lens—the lens of realism. He won’t allow any mushiness or extremely flowery notions seep into his pores. He just puts all his marbles into things that are real, nothing too touchy-feely, nothing too fantastical, nothing too intangible. Period. End of sentence. Have you ever tried to argue with a realist when you’re not one? You know it’s hard. Don’t ever say, “Well, but I FEEL this way.”

He might tell you feelings are not facts.

Nevertheless, I’ve found it to be a losing game.

Realists will tell hopeless romantics that they’re living in a dreamworld, in a magazine, in a fantasy land.

If you are wondering if you are a hopeless romantic, see if you have a tendency toward any of the following…

1. You can find the beauty or magical aspect of things. If you believe things will work out, that life truly is beautiful, that things come together for a reason, that we love who we love because our heart tells us to, you are a hopeless romantic.


2. You understand others and can imagine what it feels like to be them. The word for this is empathy-that we have the ability to feel empathy for others. We can comprehend what they’re going through even though it’s not happening to us. People with empathy are hopeless romantics, because they have a sense of understanding. I know plenty of people who think they are hopeless romantics, but the bottom line is, they are not. They don’t have the capacity to feel another’s pleasures or pains.


3. You are spirited and have a mad sense of passion. Passion comes in all forms…for your family, your career, your friends, your hobbies, your children, and so on. If you come wired with passion, you are, indeed, a hopeless romantic.


4. You cry not just at Hallmark movies but at Hallmark commercials. You actually become weepy.


5. You believe that love conquers all. That there is nothing that compares to love. If this is so, you are someone who loves to be in love with love.


I believe all those five things above, and I make no bones about it. Do you?

When people say to me, “Oh, you’re just a hopeless romantic!” I say, “Why, thank you!”

I need a shirt that says, “Proud Hopeless Romantic.”

You see, I would wear it proudly.


BooksStephanie Verni is a hopeless romantic, Professor of Business Communication at Stevenson University, and the author of Inn Significant,  Baseball Girl, and Beneath the Mimosa Tree. Along with her colleagues Leeanne Bell McManus and Chip Rouse, she is a co-author of Event Planning: Communicating Theory and Practice, published by Kendall-Hunt.


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